What Is Skin-to-Skin?

A Simple Practice That Builds Bonding, Calms Baby, and Supports Breastfeeding

In the whirlwind of birth and those early days with your baby, few things are more powerful — or more natural — than skin-to-skin contact.

It looks exactly like it sounds: your baby lies directly on your bare chest, with their own chest or tummy against your skin, usually covered with a soft blanket. No vests, no distractions — just warm, calm connection.

But this isn’t just a sweet moment. Skin-to-skin care is backed by science, rooted in instinct, and offers incredible benefits for both baby and parent.

Why Skin-to-Skin Matters

From the very first hour after birth and throughout the newborn weeks, skin-to-skin has been shown to:

For Baby:

  • Regulate body temperature, breathing, and heart rate

  • Boost blood sugar stability

  • Reduce crying and soothe fussiness

  • Support early breastfeeding behaviours

  • Build a sense of safety and connection

For You:

  • Stimulate oxytocin (the bonding and milk-flow hormone)

  • Support milk production

  • Lower stress and promote emotional bonding

  • Build confidence in early parenting

  • Reduce your risk of postnatal depression

It’s a powerful way to remind both of you that you’re connected — biologically, emotionally, and practically.

When to Do Skin-to-Skin

Right after birth

Often called the “golden hour,” the first hour after birth is ideal for undisturbed skin-to-skin. It helps baby adjust gently to the world and encourages the first breastfeed.

In the first weeks

Keep going beyond day one. Skin-to-skin can be part of your daily rhythm — during feeds, after baths, or when baby needs comfort.

After a difficult birth or separation

If you and baby were separated after birth, it’s never too late. Skin-to-skin can help you reconnect and establish breastfeeding, even days or weeks later.

With partners too

Partners can (and should!) enjoy skin-to-skin too. It supports bonding, calms baby, and gives the birthing parent a well-earned break.

How to Do Skin-to-Skin

It’s simple — and doesn’t need a perfect setup.

  1. Find a calm space, indoors or out

  2. Undress baby down to their nappy

  3. Place baby chest-to-chest against your bare chest

  4. Cover both of you with a blanket or muslin to stay warm

  5. Relax — breathe, hum, feed, sleep, or just be

Aim for 20–60 minutes when possible, but even short sessions are beneficial.

Tips for a Safe and Soothing Experience

  • Make sure baby’s nose and mouth are clear, with their head turned to one side

  • Baby’s hips should be flexed, with their chest resting on yours

  • You should be awake and alert — avoid skin-to-skin in bed if you’re feeling drowsy

  • Try skin-to-skin in a comfy chair or upright position if you’re tired

  • Keep it going even after the early newborn days — toddlers love it too!

Final Thoughts

Skin-to-skin is one of those small, gentle rituals that supports you both — emotionally and biologically. It requires nothing but your body, your presence, and a little time.

Whether you’re establishing feeding, easing a fussy hour, or simply reconnecting after a long night, skin-to-skin reminds your baby: you are safe, you are held, and you are loved.

At Neutral Nest, we’re here to support every real, raw, and radiant part of new parenthood — and this? This is one of the most beautiful.

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